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nsible　mother　can　distinguish　between　that　which　is　useful　for　her　child　and　that　which　is　detrimental。　But　she　doesn’t　stop　loving　the　child　when　it　misbehaves。　This　may　be　the　most　important　aspect　to　look　at　in　ourselves。　Everyone；　at　one　time　or　another；　misbehaves　in　thought　or　speech　or　action——most　frequently　in　thought；　fairly　frequently　in　speech　and　not　so　often　in　action。　So　what　do　we　do　with　that？　What　does　a　mother　do？　She　tells　the　child　not　to　do　it　again；　loves　the　child　as　much　as　she’s　always　loved　it　and　just　gets　on　with　the　job　of　bringing　up　her　child。　Maybe　we　can　start　to　bring　up　ourselves。

The　whole　of　this　training　is　a　matter　of　maturing。　Maturity　is　wisdom；　which　is　unfortunately　not　connected　to　age。　If　it　were；　it　would　be　very　easy。　One　would　have　a　guarantee。　Since　it　is　hard　work；　a　job　to　be　done。　First　es　recognition；　then　learning　not　to　condemn；　but　to　understand；　“This　is　the　way　it　is。”　The　third　step　is　change。　Recognition4　may　be　the　hardest　part　for　most　people；　it’s　not　easy　to　see　what　goes　on　inside　of　oneself。　This　is　the　most　important　and　the　most　interesting　aspect　of　contemplation。

We　lead　a　contemplative　life；　but　that　does　not　mean　we　sit　in　meditation　all　day　long。　A　contemplative　life　means　that　one　considers　every　aspect　of　what　happens　as　part　of　a　learning　experience。　One　remains　introspective　under　all　circumstances。　When　one　bees　outgoing；　one　goes　to　the　world　with　one’s　thoughts；　speech　and　actio